To those who are married, .. Not married .. and
soon to be married, I hope you will be touched with this story...
MARRIAGE
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and
said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly.
Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know
what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly,
why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the
chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't
talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what
had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory
answer; she had lost my heart to Lily. I didn't love her anymore. I just
pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated
that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent
ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for
her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I
had said for I loved Lily so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of
me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a
kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several
weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something
at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell
asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Lily.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not
care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want
anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a
life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a
month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken
marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to
recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of
our bedroom to the front door every morning.. I thought she was going
crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd
request.
I told Lily about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and
thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to
face the divorce, she said scornfully..
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was
explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we
both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy
in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to
the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in
my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about
the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the
office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my
chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I
hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she
was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair
was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy
returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was
growing again. I didn't tell Lily about this. It became easier to carry
her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me
stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few
dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my
dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so
thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her
heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out.
To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an
essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer
and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I
might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms,
walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her
hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly;
it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held
her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I
held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked
intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the
door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked
upstairs. Lily opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Lily, I do not
want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have
a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Lily, I said, I
won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I
didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each
other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on
our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Lily seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed
the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my
wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and
wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I
run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a
relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the
bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot
give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend
and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a
real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they
were to success when they gave up.
Sad Story by Kay Regala
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Friday, November 12, 2010
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
你不知道的事
蝴蝶擦几次眼睛
再学会飞行
夜空洒满了星星
但几颗会落地
还记得我们是如何认识的吗？
若不是因为考试
也许
我们永远都不会认识到对方
也许
这就是缘分吧...
我飞行
但你坠落之际
很靠近
爱听见呼吸
对不起
我却没捉紧你
也许你不懂
刚开此
我从没想过
能和你成为朋友
就连多说几句话
也没想过
因为
你是多么的冰冷
请允许我用着词儿
你是多么的安静...
你不知道我为什么离开你
我坚持不能说
放任你哭泣
你的泪滴像倾盆大雨
碎落满地
在心里清晰
你知道吗
我的部落格也因为你
而成了关闭式
因为
我用了你的照片
作为背景了
我偷的...
你不知道我为什么狠下心
还悬在你看不见那高空里
我的事
你不知道的事
不懂何时起
我对你有了不一样的感觉
超越友情
却还不到爱情
这感觉
把我也弄乱了...
蝴蝶擦几次眼睛
再学会飞行
夜空洒满了星星
但几颗会落地
我飞行
但你坠落之际
很靠近
爱听见呼吸
对不起
我却没捉紧你
也许
对你来说
我就是哥儿们
我也很希望我们能保持这样的关系
直到永远...
你不知道我为什么离开你
我坚持不能说
放任你哭泣
你的泪滴像倾盆大雨
碎落满地
在心里清晰
我们明年或以后
也许
就不会再有联络了
再见了
我的 朋友...
你不知道我为什么狠下心
还悬在你看不见那高空里
我的事
你不知道的事
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Monday, October 25, 2010
12星座无法表达的伤痛
白羊座
白羊座一向被人们看作：火爆，冲动甚至没有大脑的情绪化阿一星座。 就是这个在外表看来开朗无比的星座，在难过的时候却出奇的安静，自己疗伤，自己恢复，自己在自己的世界里试图遗忘悲伤，受伤的白羊总是会做出一些看似正常实则不同于以往的事情。不要看羊平时乐呵呵的其实羊有时候满悲观的!
金牛座
牛牛们被冠以“现实，算计，爱财，保守”的高帽，其实金牛座并不象他们的名字那样金牛，他们浪漫而且天真，在遇到爱的时候吞吞吐吐很容易害羞，但是打死不 承认，由于他们严谨的作风，很容易让你感觉他们的状态奇佳，其实不是，牛牛们很脆弱很有责任感，很容易受到伤害后自我欺骗，需要了解牛牛的人给予关爱!
双子座
双子座常常被划分到不安，疑心重，务实，小聪明，不爱与他人交谈自己的心事的行列，双子多半会对自己的秘密止步，其实双子看似铁打的波澜不惊，双子座的看 似成熟，却实则没有成熟的经历，不会猛烈的追求，却愿意真心的等待，就算是发现时光已经流逝，双子也只是保持沉默和伪装的孤傲，双子深深的害怕受到伤害， 所以双子以自己的方式生活在心的角落一言不发，有人说过与双子谈一场恋爱会令你终身难忘!
巨蟹座
很迷样的星座，有的巨蟹被人们看作胆小，喜欢逃避，性格顽固，其实巨蟹们看似有坚硬的外壳，内心却极度脆弱，自我保护意识的强烈正好验证了这些，善良的本 性，不会拒绝，不想对他人说不，巨蟹对爱情和面包的选择很明确，选择爱，别人对他好，他就认为自己也应该对对方好，巨蟹会默默成全，会真心奉献，蟹子你的 忧愁人们会了解,另外不要老是把巨蟹当作万能的倾诉者，蟹子的心事重重的时候也需要有人关心和理解!
狮子座
毫无疑问狮子座很有特质那就是被人们认为的自大，粗心，爱面子，很骄傲，有的人认为狮子令人不知道该如何相处，那我只能告诉你，你不了解狮子，狮子很有同 情心，遇到伤痛，狮子很悲观，胡思乱想，却要故作镇定，而且狮子极度容易把责任推在自己的身上，狮子并不愿意伤害别人，如果伤害了别人，狮子会内疚自责到 世界末日来了都无法清醒!
处女座
神经大条，工作狂，生活混而不乱，挑剔，有点事妈，机械人大概是人们对处女座的表面定义，其实追求完美或者是感情洁癖的性格都是处女周围或者精神的压抑附 加給他们的生活，处女座有一颗敏感而又无奈地心，遇到痛苦的事情，他们会把自己逼进死角或者借酒消愁，这时处女座的自我保护欲已经变成零，看惯了强势的他 们，但拿掉面具的处女座柔弱的像孩子，需要别人来保护，丝毫没有安全感!
天秤座
天秤座谈到这个星座，人们就会想到美男美女，大众情人，没错天秤座外貌高雅，性格平和，和天秤相处你可能会感觉到天秤的性格永远不会极端，但是看似备受肯 定的天秤其实很自卑，做事犹豫不定，如果你了解天秤你就知道什么是真正的最悲观，难过时，对未来的事情天秤都不敢去想，痛苦愈痛苦，生活中灰蒙蒙的，不知 道该怎么走下去
天蝎座
阴险，残酷，城府极深，善妒，冷血等几颗重磅炸弹都被人们很不公平的丢给了蝎子，就是这种认识蝎子也淡然的接受了，蝎子的悲情是人们所很少感受到的，因为 蝎子的倔强和坚强，真实的蝎子可以说是悲情者的典范，脆弱到骨子里的本性，强烈的性格致使蝎子受到伤害后更加难受，很难愈合，越痛蝎子就越用毒尾伤害自己 伤害所爱的人，希望蝎子身边的人珍视天蝎，蝎子是无心伤人的，只是用这种方式受伤!
射手座
人马座，半人半兽可以说是很有个性的火性星座，粗枝大叶，喜新厌旧，洒脱，很有欲望追求，有时略显盲目和小家子气，其实半人半兽的外在 被称为原始的进化，但是射手的性格却完全小孩子，很容易凭第一印象下定论，所以分分合合或者没有开始的结果也是常有的，射手座很难令人联想到悲观？但请不 要只注意射手此刻的情绪，下一刻痛苦会令射手走进阴霾。表面乐观会更加反射出射手的寂寞，怅然。两面性的射手有着过客般的忧伤!
摩羯座
也许会不太忍心说这个星座，因为它象征坚忍，耐心和悲情指数都很靠前，为了友情和爱情能够达到一个无法想象的极限，不抛弃，不分开，哪怕不是对方的爱，但 是也不纠缠，厚道直白的摩羯纵使有太多的软弱，也抵不住它天生悲观的使者角色，如果你爱上摩羯，你得到的会是平凡的温暖和永远的爱，如果你不爱摩羯，摩羯 会在静默中给予你想要的自由和未来!
水瓶座
追求自己的生活，带有最重的个人主义色彩，有风一般的性格，个性独特，偶尔会流露出冷漠。 如果你身边有博爱的水瓶，你会发现什么是真正的难以捉摸，但是对秘密重视，对事情细腻的瓶子，很难一见钟情，'远'是瓶子对情感的定义，看似冷漠不介入他人事情的水瓶，其实常常处于错乱，困扰的状态，对过去的伤痛很难忘记，瓶子易碎易毁，虽然崇尚自由，但依旧无法放弃爱...
双鱼座
也许每个星座都有矛盾的感觉，却没有一个星座浑然天成的像双鱼这样矛盾到凄美，有时怯懦有时隐忍，双鱼从来不掩饰自己的柔弱和愁闷，双鱼在遇到任何的事情 的时候多半都会表现出和鱼儿气质完全不一样的坚强，双鱼会心甘情愿的为爱牺牲，情绪化的鱼儿也许会令周围的人很迷茫，但是请你读懂鱼的伤!
ps: copy from freind's blog
Sunday, October 24, 2010
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